On beauty and loss

Dad liz closeup

My dad always noticed when I was dressed up. He was the kind of guy who appreciated a good pair of heels and a swipe of lipstick.

My dad always told me I was beautiful. And I always believed him.

Dad signing

My dad loved my surprise visits to his office. I loved the look on his face when he opened the door to his examining room and saw me. I remember the feeling of his crisp, white lab-coat hugs and the way he would wrap an arm around my shoulder and proudly introduce me to his patients.

“Meet my gorgeous daughter.” He would say, every time.

And every time I was embarrassed and pleased and proud of my handsome, brilliant doctor-father who could hear fetal heartbeats and bring life into the world.

Even sick, he noticed an effort made. I thought about my clothes for chemo appointments and hospital visits. I wore lipstick to the oncologist. If I still tried, I thought, so would he.

Today would gave been his 68th birthday. I miss his advice, his wisdom, and the way he adored his grandchildren.

I also miss my dad telling me that I’m beautiful. And believing him.





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  • Connie
    Posted at 12:13h, 26 September Reply

    Beautiful Liz. He did beam when he spoke of you. I remember his face so well when he did.

    • Wise Women Montreal
      Posted at 13:16h, 26 September Reply

      I love hearing things like that. Thanks, Connie.

  • Heidi Rosen
    Posted at 13:50h, 26 September Reply


    • Wise Women Montreal
      Posted at 13:53h, 26 September Reply

      Thank you!

  • Amalah
    Posted at 14:48h, 26 September Reply

    Oh, this is just lovely. Thank you so much for sharing those memories.

    • Wise Women Montreal
      Posted at 16:06h, 26 September Reply

      Thanks so much, Amy!

  • Lori
    Posted at 19:32h, 26 September Reply

    I have very warm memories that are so similar with my dad. He passed away seven years ago today. Missing him so deeply!

    • Wise Women Montreal
      Posted at 20:00h, 26 September Reply

      Thanks for sharing, Lori.

  • Emily
    Posted at 20:10h, 27 September Reply

    Oh how I remember him.. Giving me advice.. Snapping me out of my gloom and putting Ryan in his place when he so deserved it. He was a wonderful wonderful man. I think of him often.beautifully written Liz. I know how much he meant to you

    • Wise Women Montreal
      Posted at 22:04h, 27 September Reply

      Thank you!

  • Jodi
    Posted at 19:39h, 29 September Reply

    Your Dad had a wonderful way of making everyone he cared for feel special. He saw the good in everyone and was always sincere with his compliments. He left us way too soon. Wish I could have spend more time with him.

    • Wise Women Montreal
      Posted at 20:29h, 29 September Reply

      Thanks, Jodi! xo

  • Wendy Berenbaum
    Posted at 10:05h, 04 October Reply

    Liz so beautiful thanks for sharing. Now I need to go and re-apply my eye makeup. Cherish your memories.. they will last you a lifetime!!! XOXO

    • Wise Women Montreal
      Posted at 10:04h, 06 October Reply

      Thank you, Wendy!

  • Elly
    Posted at 18:30h, 22 September Reply

    How beautiful!Your father would be so proud of the caring wonderful woman you’ve become!Just as your whole family is.We love you .xoxox

  • Rabbi Fishman
    Posted at 20:54h, 22 September Reply

    Very powerful. At this season I am thinking a lot about loss, memory and the moments we continue to take with us… Wishing you a Shana Tovah.

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